Note: The following article deals with mature content and will be handled in a tasteful manner. This article is not meant to support or oppose President-elect Trump. This article is about parenting.
Should Trump Be Your Son’s Role Model?
The election results of last week were a shock to everyone, Clinton and Trump supporters alike. It took Washington, the media and the American people by surprise. While Trump supporters were happy with the results, Clinton supporters were, understandably, left with questions and in some cases rage.
Pro-Trump and Anti-Trump zealots took to Twitter, Facebook and Instagram to vent their frustrations with the opposition’s opinions. It was horrible actually.
Social media over the next few days was insufferable. Pro-Trump and Anti-Trump zealots took to Twitter, Facebook and Instagram to vent their frustrations with the opposition’s opinions. It was horrible actually. America stooped to a new low. But there was sentiment that made it through the noise:
“What kind of example are we setting for our boys if the new President treats women poorly?”
I read it over and over online and discussed it in person. Understand that I am not calling President-elect Trump sexist, others have based on his comments. You may see Trump’s comments as harmless, sarcastic or as a misunderstood joke. Regardless, many people feel that Trump will be the downfall of American values because of his past comments about women. Personally I don’t think that is going to happen for reasons you will understand shortly.
Now everyone needs to take a deep breath and understand a few truths.
Don’t Let a Politician Raise Your Sons
If you are a parent that is worried about Trump corrupting your sons, then don’t give him the power over influencing them. This is an important ideal to understand. Yes, we always want our President to be a moral beacon for the rest of the country, but that is rarely the case. Tump isn’t coming to your home to force you to watch episodes of Celebrity Apprentice and make you listen to his “locker room talk”. Really, he’s not. So then America’s sons are left with real life role models, their parents.
If you want your children to be humble and kind with a firm grasp of who God is, then you are the one who provides that example in their lives.
As parents we are the most influential people in the lives of our children. We lead by example, every hour of every day. If you do not want your sons to be sexist, then YOU lead by example. If you want your children to be humble and kind with a firm grasp of who God is, then you are the one who provides that example in their lives. Do not expect someone else to change to fit your ideals for your children.
Recently, I wrote an article about five things sons need to learn from their fathers and number one was the proper way to treat women. Don’t think that just because Trump is going to be the next president that your sons are going to become just like him overnight. If you don’t like Trump then use his comments as examples with your boys for what not to do. You are still the largest influence in your son’s lives.
“Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.” Proverbs 22:6
America has Survived this Before
America has already had a President whose personal behavior was not a good example to America’s youth. Remember Bill Clinton? You know, Hillary’s husband. From 1993 to 2001 America’s highest office belonged to a man who committed adultery, lied about it and was impeached by the House of Representatives. How quickly we forgot.
I was an impressionable young man during Clinton’s presidency. I was exposed to things on the nightly news that I had no business knowing in my early teenage years. Things you wouldn't want your older teens to know today. America was consumed by stories of the sexual acts committed in the Oval Office, the cigars and … that dress.
But we survived that moral downfall didn’t we? I didn’t grow up to act anything like President Clinton. Why? Because my father took the opportunity to tell me what was going on in Washington was wrong. My father lives a life that is a great example for me when it comes to how to respect, love and provide for the women in my life.
It is our life’s calling to dutifully bring up sons and daughters who make America a better place.
It has never been the President’s job to influence and raise your children. It is not the government’s job either. Today our children are growing up in an imperfect America. We cannot shield our children from every arrow of immorality and deflect every stone of deceit. It falls on us to demonstrate how to navigate these rough times. I recently wrote about how the pain of life is going to find your child one day and you must prepare them to overcome it.
It’s not Trump’s job to be a role model. If you support Trump, still strive to be the most influential role model in your son's lives. That is our job as parents. It is our life’s calling to dutifully bring up sons and daughters who make America a better place. Don’t fail your children by passing that responsibility to anyone else.
While you may not like the idea of Donald Trump being the next President of the United States, it is going to happen. But you are still in control of your family. Should our President be a righteous and dignified person? Yes. Were we going to get that with either candidate? No. The fact remains that we, the parents, continue to be in control of raising our children. Your sons will be just fine as long as you act as their role model, not Donald Trump.