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Am I Worth Fighting For?

Updated: Jul 8, 2020

Am I Worth Fighting For? | The Secure Dad

You Don’t Deserve to be a Victim

I talk about mindset a lot. It’s important in everything we do about all aspects of our life. A mindset is how we think, feel and respond to the world around us. How’s your mindset?

For years I’ve talked about a secure mindset. This is when you realize that your safety is your own responsibility and you own that fact. You make the security of your family the main consideration in your plans.

And let’s not forget, security is the foundation of happiness. Without knowing you’re safe, you can’t feel happy.

I’m going to say something to you now that perhaps no one in your life has ever said to you before.

You don’t deserve to be a victim.

No law-abiding good person deserves to be terrorized by an attacker. No one has the right to do that to you. Your age, gender, religion, creed, preference, likes, dislikes, political affiliation does not make you deserving of being victimized.

There are people that I’ve talked to who don’t see the value of themselves when it comes to personal safety. Those people go about life playing a numbers game, just hoping they won’t be victimized. Hope is not a good plan, despite what Star Wars may lead you to believe.

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You need to know you have what it takes to defend yourself. And that starts with how you think. It starts with your mindset. You don’t deserve to be a victim.

You are worth fighting for.

I had Tony Blauer on the show not long ago and he asked me a question during our talk. He asked me, “Andy do you have your own bodyguard?'' I responded that I didn’t.

“But aren’t you a VIP? Of course you are,” he continued. “You’re a very important person to your family, your friends and your coworkers.” He encouraged me and well as my listeners that we are very important to the people in our lives and we should realize our value.

While we talk a lot about protecting those that we love on this show, we can’t forget about us. We, the protector parents, are worth fighting for. We can’t undervalue ourselves and the importance of the roles that we play in the lives of others. We are worth fighting for.

We are worth the effort.

There’s no quick tips for home security or situational awareness today. I wanted to lift you up and remind you that you are a good, law abiding citizen who deserves to be happy.

Your desire to protect yourself isn't selfish, it's justified. You are loved by God. And you are worth fighting for.

He shall say: “Hear, Israel: Today you are going into battle against your enemies. Do not be fainthearted or afraid; do not panic or be terrified by them. For the Lord your God is the one who goes with you to fight for you against your enemies to give you victory.”

Deuteronomy 20:3-4


Andy Murphy

Andy Murphy founded The Secure Dad in 2016 with the aspiration to help families live safer, happier lives. What started as a personal blog about family safety has turned into an award-winning podcast, an Amazon best-selling book, and online courses. He focuses his efforts in the areas of home security, situational awareness, and online safety.


Andy is a husband and father. His interests include coaching youth basketball, hiking, and trying to figure out his 3D printer.

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