I’m one of those people. The ones that like to know what’s going on. I don't feel comfortable when there’s too much moving behind me, close to me. The best example of this is when I feel strange when seated with my back to the door.
If you can’t sit with your back to the door, you’re not alone or crazy. You’re security minded and that’s a very good thing.
It starts out as an actual feeling on my spine and crawls up neck. It’s this little sense inside me that is wanting me to turn around. It feels something like Spiderman’s “spider sense.” It tingles like that. I am one of those souls that can’t sit with facing away from a door. Police officers know what I’m talking about.
Most people who can control where they sit in a room will naturally take a position where they can see what’s going on. They sit where they can observe the room and the main points of entry. They want to be able to recognize who is coming and going and what that might mean to them.
The most common place for this type of feeling is a restaurant. Sometimes like at a Wendy’s you can choose where you want to sit and get the best view of the dining room. Other times you’re at a fancy, “sit-down” place and you’re encouraged to sit where the host asks. You can of course annoy the host by asking to sit at a better vantage point, but sometimes that’s not an option. So then begins the race to find the seat that won’t set off your “spider sense.”
But this sense you have is good. It’s a form of your intuition. Your internal gift of intuition, sometimes called a “gut feeling”, is the little voice inside you that tells how to be safe. Embracing this voice is a good choice. Don’t shrug it off as an annoyance or paranoia. God gave you this gift for a reason; listen to it and it will make you safer.
Understand that intuition will not instantly grant you the fighting skills of an MMA fighter. But it will help you pick out a creep who’s paying too much attention to your daughter. Listen to this voice, don’t ignore it! Trust this feeling and learn from it. It will make you and your family safer.
If you want to know more about intuition and how it can keep you and your family safe, see my series on Situational Awareness for Families. For more on making your family safer, get news and articles sent right to your inbox with The Secure Dad Field Notes.